Over the past few weeks I have conducted a small survey on this site. The replies are really interesting.
I asked “Did your ex give you a solid reason for breaking up?”. Over 6000 of you replied.
The most illuminating discovery for me is that 1 in 6 girls are being dumped with no reason given whatsoever. Their other half don’t even have the decency of doing it in person. Of course, it could be because the girls answering that question were early in the relationship, and guys do have a tendency to flake out if it’s only a couple of weeks into things. But it’s still a surprising statistic.
There is then an approximately 50-50 split between guys who give genuine reasons vs guys who give fake reasons. This doesn’t surprise me as much. It sucks to be dumped, but it is also hard on the person ending the relationship. They don’t want to be seen to be shallow and rude, which is why they often fall back on the usual reasons, like:
- “It’s not you, it’s me”
- “I hope we can still be friends”
- “I think we need some space for a while”
- “You deserve better”
Uncovering the real reasons for a breakup often requires a dose of self-reflection. It is hard to look inwards and assess your own shortcomings. Of course, it takes two to tango – as they say – so it might simply come down to the insecurities and circumstances of your ex.
I’m interested to hear from you in the comments below about this survey. What was your personal experience? How many corny breakup lines did your ex boyfriend pull on you? If your ex was honest about his reasons, what were they, and did you learn from them?