Hi Essy!
I’ve just recently bought Jemima Fox’s book, just as you reccommended, but I need some help thats not offered within those pages. You see, my boyfriend and I lived together before splitting up, which makes it extrememly difficult to follow through with the no contact phase for 4, or even 2 weeks. Its been three days and I already feel myself wanting to contact him about bills that will be due shortly, because they are all in my name, and he, and our other room-mate still occupy the house. The lease is up in March, so this wont be going on for much longer, but to save everyone from hassle both me, and Brian decided to keep the bills in my name until then. Im unsure of what to do because although I want to follow through with all of the steps, seeing/talking to him seems inevitable due to my responsibilities. Please help advise me as to what I should do…ps. the no contact phase is the hardest thing ever!..every day that goes by that he hasnt gotten in touch with me hurts a little bit more than the last.
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Hi,
Me and my bf dated for almost 2 years we were so in love and just about a month ago things started to change and he started to another girl who live thousands of miles away but he was telling he he loved her an ho she was the girl for him. When I found out we were broken up but he had being talking to her when we were together for about a month. Once I found out we got back together for about a week but it wasn’t the same he seemed so distant and he finally told me he couldn’t be with me anymore because he didn’t love me anymore and he didn’t know why he couldn’t explain it. He said he needed his space and maybe in the future we would get back together. I dont know what to think anymore. I broke one of the rules I contacted him and we are going to have dinner did I totally screw up my chances of getting him back?
Hey there.
Kay, well my (ex) boyfriend and I have been going out for about a year, and we broke up a couple times, but just temporarily, and we always ended up getting back together.
But he recently told me he’s moving out of the city. I thought it was all fine, and we’d say goodbye once he moved… But randomly today, He said it was all too complicated and that it was over. and he said, “it’s better to do it now than the day I leave.” And , ” You’re friend keeps tormenting me, and you always say best friends before boyfriends, and i just can’t do it anymore.” Though I always let him know that if my friends are in the wrong, it’s not like I’d defend them? .. I don’t know what to do.. Do I just leave it?
Hopefully you understood this, because I’m really upset right now and I may not be making very much sense.