Hi Essy,
I really enjoyed reading your article-thank you.
My question for you is that my boyfriend broke up with me 5 weeks ago! Although I contacted him for 2 days after that, I haven’t contacted him at all since then and he hasn’t contacted me. It’s been over 5 weeks now and I still haven’t heard from him- does this mean there is no chance of me getting him back?
He lives 2 hours away from me and we don’t really have any mutual friends. I’m still friends with him on Facebook so he knows I’m getting on with things and seeing my friends (through my status updates) but he still hasn’t contacted me!! Does he not care and should I stop hoping to get him back? I love him and I want him back but I don’t know what to do - Contact him or not?? But it’s been over 5 weeks now and there has been no contact- does this mean he is over me????
Would really appreciate your advice.
Thank you
N x
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You can never really tell with guys. They are deffinately the most complicated species. The first thing to do which all people will say is delete him on facebook! Don’t torture yourself reading about him and him not acknowlegding posts of your own. You did the right thing when not contacting him, because than you just look desperate if you keep contacting. You can do one of two things. Either contact him casually and see how he’s doing, don’t bring anything about the past or about your relationship. Just talk about things like how’s school/work been. That way you somewhat have inserted yourself into his life without sounding like you want him. The other thing you could do is continue with what your doing, no contact. Trust me on this THEY ALL COME BACK, maybe not right away, it may be years from now but they all realize what they’ve lost. That in its self will make you feel better. My best advice is to not wait around, move on pursue someone who’s worth your time. When your least expecting it he’ll contact you but by that time you won’t want him back and you’ll be moved on. Value yourself and know that you’re worth it. I’ve been through some pretty bad relationships and I’m dealing with a break up just now. The guy told me he just wanted to be friends, and willing to try again in the future. He’s just “annoyed and fed up right now.” I cried for a little bit but you just have to say he can go screw himself, delete his number, delete his facebook get yourself out of that world. No way will I be his friend so I’m taking steps to move on. It’s not easy I’ll give you that. Just do your best to do things for yourself and meet someone who puts you first and tells you that your the great person you are.
hey H x
i dont think its a good idear to contact him first, be strong again as you been and wait for him to do that first. if a man doesnt want you it wont help even if you contact him,he might take it as an iritation. if he want you back and love as well, he will contact you and look for you.maybe his silence means that he is buzy with someone else. i advice you to stay calm my gal,because he may take an advantage of you in a way that every time he do something wrong, he wont care because he will know you love him and you can always come look for him and berg him.
naomi