q. My boyfriend and I split up a while back, but I still have strong feelings for him. However, he acts very cold and distant towards me. How do I make him want me back?
I get asked this question a lot. Have you ever seen Aladdin? The genie could grant any wish, except he couldn’t force somebody to fall in love with someone else. That’s because of that annoying thing called ‘free will’.
You can’t force your guy to fall back in love with you. And the harder you try and convince him to get back with you, the more you are going to push him away.
The way to make him want you back, therefore, is to allow him to come to his own decision that he wants you back. This involves a couple of things: 1) to stop doing things that are pushing him away right now like calling him incessantly, and 2) to use a bit of reverse psychology to ‘get inside his head’.
This video I made goes into a bit more detail. Pay particular attention to the ‘salsa dancing’ example I give in the second half:
After you have watched the video, go here to see some extra resources you might find useful in your quest to get your ex boyfriend to want you back.