Hey essy,
here is my situation:
my boyfriend broke up with me three weeks ago. the first week was really terrible. i was mopy and everything the first week. but the second and third week, ive been keeping my head up. and trying to make it look like im “moving on” so far it is kind of working.
I send him a message the first week pouring my heart out to him. but i didnt beg for him to come back, i simply told him why i did want him back, and what i would do to make things better. and i shared some of our memories with him. but i also said, if you choose not to be with me, ill accept it. my friend(his friend too) said that ben has been thinking about getting back with me. (he broke up with m e because he wanted space) but boys are so confusing, so you don’t really know what they are really feeling. one night he was confused about his feelings i believe, and he told payton that he didnt want me back because he didnt want to be with the same girl his whole life and he wanted to give other girls a run for their money. and payton told me that. that night i honestly cried so hard..the next day, payton told me he told me what he said..and payton said ben started freaking out saying “what did you do that for??!” then the same night ben texted me and was acting flirty and talkative..i thought we would get together that night but we didnt. unfortunately. but im still convinced he kind of wants me back and he really does love me, i think he’s just confused right now and needs time. then yesterday, my friend bethie said that during study hall, this guy named cedric kept accusing ben of flirting with this girl tyra(but he wasnt) and ben was like “i have a girlfriend, and im not flirting” when she told me that, i broke down..and colby(my OTHER guy friend that is friends with ben) said that he asked ben if he was talking to another girl and bens like maybe but wouldnt tell who. i dont think ben is over me fully, and i still think he loves me and everything but you know. so i told payton all this and he asked ben if he was talking to a girl, and he said no. (normally ben tells the truth to payton) so i mean i just dont know who or what to believe right now. i really love him and want him back. but who doesnt want their ex back? ben is everything to me. he really brings light into my life. what do you think about this? and can you give me some advice on what to do to get him back in this type of situation? i just need some tips and pointers.
thank you, paige.
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Hey im liking your advice and i really need your help.me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost three months now. When we started we couldnt get enough of each other and we have been through alot. We love each other no doubt about it but ever since summer started i feel something weird. We were use to spending each day together well i went to el paso for two weeks and we texted each day and sometimes called but we did fight about lil things. But we got through it. Then the day i get back was our only day together then he left for alabama for a month. He is still gone but he doesnt talk to me as much as he use to. We fight but we get through it but i feel that he just doesnt care as much as he use to. I dont know if that is the deal but i cant talk to him cuz he doesnt like talking cjabout things like that but i can only hold it in so much. And he has a way of making me feel bad wen i bring stuff up like this i feel horrible and end up apologizig for it wen i know im not wrong i dont know why i do it but i do im scared to get him mad enough to where hell leave me and he is the boy i have let into my heart since my first real heart break and he says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me but wen we fight i still feel that he gets mad at me i dnt know if its the distance or what but i need to feel secure with again i want that same guy that was all affectionate and today we got into a fight becuz my bday is coming up and he wnt be here for it i kno he cant do abything about it but it just gurts cuz its my bday wit us being together and i spent my last bday by myself and he knows that well i confided into one of my friends which is also his friend and i told her about how i am not looking forward to my bday and that i wish he would try and comfort me but no and she tlaked to him about it and then he texted me saying that he felt bad and i tld him that its fine i have already spent one alone whats another and he sent me a txt back sayin how is that suppose to make me feel bettr and that i went off complaining to his friend and i went off saying im sorry im hurting i didnt mean to make you upset but im hurting okay and that i cant keep a smile on my face all the time i have to let it out and you dont seem to let it bother you and i didnt know me havin feelings and expressing them that i was complaining you have never said that to me before and he didnt text me back and ts beeen about four hours since then and i am stuck i know he is mad at me but i have a right to be upset or am i not i need your help to help me gt my bf to realize he is wrong this time and i need to know how to do that cuz ugh im just so sad with all this i want us to be fine again