Dear Essy,
thank you so much for sending me your Guide. I have googled around and came to your web page.
Yes, it is not easy for me to accept the break up as I still like him very much. Let me tell you a bit about it.
We met in April via a dating web page this year. We have seen each other and we get on well but I took it easy (no sex). And we just got closer in August when I was ready. All the sudden the end of September he told me that his company has been taken over by another company and he will not be taken over. As he is on a working visa he has to go back home. He can not stay in the UK. His contract is running out in Feb 11.
On 17.10. he decided to break up with me as he is going home soon but we can stay friend. He told me this over the phone.
I accepted it at that moment because it sounds very rational. Then two days later I realise that I miss him very much. So I sent him a text message whether we could meet up. He told me he will let me know when he is free. I thought if he is happy with our situation we could stay how it is until he goes. Why we have to be so rational if he likes me.
As I have not heard from him I sent another text message two weeks later and asked him whether he want to meet up to celebrate his birthday. He said that he is going back home to see his family and will give me a ring when he is back in town.
When he got back in town he sent me a text message on 22.10 – thanks for the birthday wishes. Just got back on the week end. It was great being with family. I was suppose to come back sooner, but decided to extend it. I caught a cold so trying to rest whenever I can. Hope you are well.
I replied – oh dear, you sound poorly. Are you at work or at home? Do you need anything?
He said – I am at work and it’s not that bad. Thanks for the offer.
I replied – Good to hear that 
. Wrap up and keep warm.
Since then I have not heard from him. I am trying very hard not to contact him. I guess he is more realistic than me and there is no hope but I really miss him.
thanks for reading and your time.
Lily x
