My boyfriend and I were together for a year. He broke up with me after a big fight. I got jealous over some girl at school and he broke it off because we argue too much and I get jealous too much. Well, after begging and pleading for him back (I feel so dumb about it now) I agreed to be friends with him.

He was very weird with me when we were “friends”. Leading me on and whatnot. Well, at Homecoming, he was grinding on one of my friends and I got jealous and he told me that we couldn’t be friends anymore and that he was done with me.

Sigh, well, now he hasn’t talked to me since November. Not a word. Not even on my birthday. He’s telling all of his friends not to talk to me anymore (they were my friends, too).

One of our mutual friends hooked him up with one of her friends so they were making out and whatever at the local fair (I wasn’t there). I didn’t care all that much and when he found out I didn’t care he got really surprised. All like “what? no, she has to care. I know she cares.” well, now he’s making out with some random girl at his bus stop every morning and I don’t know what to do… how am I supposed to get him back if he won’t even talk to me?

My boyfriend and I just broke up about one week ago. Our marriage was fixed but someone called his parents and said nasty things about me and his parents broke the marriage. He was willing to live separately with me. However, I got very pissed off at his parents and in anger swore to them and his grandmother. I did not do that face to face but only to him. He then got angry and said he does not want me anymore. In more anger I swore at him too and then called his mother and told her that if there are faults in me, then there are faults in her own son too. And told all the bad things he did and despite that i still loved him. But my ex got angry that I told his bad habits to his parents. He then decided to break up for good. One day after break up, he contacted me as it was my birthday and told me that he was sorry for turning it into sad. Then i begged him to come back and promised that I wil never do those things again. He said he will think about it and tell me after two days. After two days, he said he still did not want me in his life. He then started talking about his friend who filled his parents ears against me. In anger, I swore at his friend. And he cut the fone line and send me a final goodbye message. I txtd him whole day yesterday but he did not reply. From today I will not contact him and haven’t contacted him since morning.

Is there any chance of winning him back?

I have a question about the No Contact Rule, is it okay to email your ex a very casual email that you have moved back in town? We were doing distance for a year and 4 months and he ended it on the phone, actual thru Face Time. The reason why we broke up was because of the distance and the stress that came with it. He also told me he needed figure out what he wanted in his life during the break up. It was very unnerving to hear that after 4 years he wasn’t sure what he wanted. We dated a total of 4 years.

It will be three months of no contact since we last spoke when I email a very casually that I have move home. Do you think it is a good idea or do I still uphold the NO Contact Rule? He has knowledge I am moving home through friends, but I would like for him to hear form me.

Any advice will help. I miss him and hope that he comes around and contacts me first, but I know I might have to be the one who gives a little nudge. Thank you.

Thank you,

Ely

Then it was my birthday the other week and we spent the night together but I was pretty quiete because I was upset that all of my friends had forgot it was my birthday and that he hadn’t come near me all night or kissed me. He asked me what was up with me but I kept saying nothing it doesn’t matter, anyways we spent the day after together also but I was still moody with him, but he was being okay with it. Then the following day he sent me a text saying “he doesn’t know what’s up with me at the moment “, I told him what was up with me and he didn’t reply he said he didn’t know what to say. Then a few days later he suggested that we should talk and he said that we should go on a break so I said okay because I thought he needed it and he would come running back. He didn’t i did, after 5 days I apologised for my behaviour and asked him what he was thinking and he said “I don’t know if I want to be with you anymore but I still love you and always will”, he said I was always miserable and wanted to start arguments. I was distraught so I text him some more the days after apologising and telling him how much I loved him and that I would change, he didn’t reply. I asked to talk it out and he wouldn’t meet me he kept saying that he was busy seeing his mates, so I marched round his house to talk and he just said the same thing again, but that he might ring tomorrow and we could talk on Thursday (this was Tuesday). He didn’t call, and I asked if we were still going to talk on Thursday and he said he was busy, so I marched round his house again, only this time he said that because I was constantly texting him i’de pushed him into deciding he didn’t want to be with me so he broke up with me. I just said okay and walked away.

He text me about half an hour later saying sorry and that it hurts him too and that he had being crying, I just text him saying I was at my mates because he was pestering me to eat and sleep because I couldn’t before. He then text me the morning after saying he’d been looking at a picture from holiday of us and crying, and said “don’t end up stupid like your mates, your too much of a nice person and girlfriend” so i said you too, and I told him let me know if he ever has second thoughts and wants to get back together. He said “I do every minute” so after I was asking him for another chance telling him how happy we could be again and he said “the good times outweighed the bad”, I was so confused he said that he loved me and wanted to be together and we rarely argued until recently and that wasn’t much. I waited until the weekend and asked him if he wated me to drop his stuff round his and he said “no rush unless you want get rid?”, I said okay to that, but texted him the day after asking to talk about what’s happend he said no point and that he was busy again.

We’ve been texting eachother all week i’ve been trying to reason with him and apologised and told him ive changed because I know i was unfair to him, and he has been saying he’s heartbroken too and that he’s hurting. I apologised last night over text again because I said I wouldn’t fancy him anymore if he had all these tattoo’s over his body (this was on my birthday) I only said it because he wasn’t listening to me when I asked him to not have them. He then text me this morning saying I hurt him so much saying that, and I told him I didnt mean it and asked him if we can talk about the situation, all that he’s said to that is “what about?” and that he’s busy all week apart from Thursday so I asked him if we can then and he’s ignored me.

Have I pushed him away? Will he come back on his own and realise he can’t be without me? The thing is when he suggested having a break and since then he’s gone out every night and day with his mates, and this is occupying his mind from us, is he trying to fight getting back with me that’s why he’s going out all the time? Please tell me what you think and what I should do, im completely heartbroken.

Thanks

Sophie

I am at lost of what to do right now! Please help.
My ex boyfriend and I have been dating for the past 3 years. We recently broke up! Not the first time, many times in fact. About 6 days ago. We have not contacted each other since 4 days back, and this is the longest we have gone without me giving in to text him(because usually I will be the one trying to mend back and salvage). He is the stubborn type.

For the past few months our relationship was already rocky and we have lost the spark we used to have. I miss him dearly.

Reason for the break up is because of all the minor problems from all the previous arguments which slowly snowballed into this really bad fight we just had. All because of trust issue mainly and his family and our constant bickering which he have gotten sick of. He wanted a 6 months time out but to me, I am just afraid he will get over me during the period we are away from each other(he is a really attractive guy and is a women magnet) but he said that is not what he meant. He said he want peace, me showing my temper at him can ruin his entire day and because of all this, he show no interest in hanging out or talking to me much.

I do not know where to go from here. I do love him, very very much. We also have a dog business together and the last conversation we had, I decided to leave the business and let him take over(he said it was either he took it or me). Now I can’t go back and I miss the dogs and him.

I just feel that he doesn’t care anymore. He isn’t the sort to go crazy, miss me and then call me back saying he is sorry etc type, he is the type that won’t text me even if I don’t text him for days after a break up.

Everyone around me is telling me to move on but my heart doesn’t want to. I really hope that I can salvage this one way or another. Please guide me! These past week have been devastating to go through. Been waiting for him to text me